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Why I’m Not A Feminist

Well, this is a subject that has been on my mind a lot these past few months. This is definitely an extremely touchy subject in the world today. Feminism. Wow. As soon as you read that, I’m sure your mind just exploded….. Feminism seems to be everywhere in 2018 America. And I mean EVERYWHERE!  It seems that no matter where I look,  there are things about feminism, women’s rights, women’s independence, and so on and so forth. There are books, magazines, rallies, protests, etc. So many things that just seem to be screaming for feminism and women’s rights​. At first, it may seem like a great cause to be fighting for, but is it really?? Well…… all that glitters is not gold, and feminism is no exception to that. While it may seem like a great basic concept, Feminism has really been twisted into something that can be quite awful. Because of this, here are three of the biggest reasons that I’m NOT a feminist.

 

1. Feminism Goes Against God’s Design

 

One would assume that since it is called ‘feminism,’ women would be striving to be feminine and embracing the way that God made them. Right? Instead, we see the exact opposite! So many of these so called ‘feminists’ are just trying their best to act like men! So please, explain to me again why it is called feminism?

 

Feminism fights against all forms of authority and leadership. Feminism at it’s core, is teaching that you are your own god. No one should be able to tell you what to do. YOU are the only one in charge of your life. No one should get in the way of that. Why are we surprised that so many women get upset over the slightest amount of male leadership? Even something as simple as a man holding a door can be considered offensive! “Seriously!? Does he think I’m to weak to open my own door? Does he think that I can’t do anything for myself? I don’t need him!”

 

Male leadership should be encouraged. We should be trying to build up and support the men in our lives. Not doing our best to squash them and their leadership like bugs!

 

There is such a big difference in being strong and independent, and being strong and independent. I know that’s a slight play on words, but I think you know what I mean.

 

2. Women Are Told That They Are Superior

 

I once heard it said that men and women were created equally valuable, but purposely different. I couldn’t agree more! One of the saddest things about feminism is the way that it tears men down. I’m sure that we’ve all seen and heard examples of this. Even at a young age, girls are singing little chants like “Girls go to college to get more knowledge, Boys go to Jupiter to get more stupider!” This might just seem like a harmless little chant, but is it really? Society has been teaching the girls from a young age to think negatively of men. Boys are stupid. Boys don’t matter. Boys just get in the way. As they get older, do we expect this mindset to just vanish away?  I have seen so many articles and interviews with young women from around the country. When asked what the difference’s were between men and women, almost every single woman made a negative comment towards men.

 

Feminists claim that they are fighting for equal rights. When in reality, they are fighting to be superior. Some women have even admitted to not caring less about what happens to men. For that matter, they could care less about what happens to anybody other than themselves! They will even go so far as to murder their own children, in the name of ‘Woman’s Rights.’ How can they say that they are fighting for women’s rights when they are killing the smallest women in our country!? We are all precious in God’s eyes! That means everyone. Man, woman and child.

 

3. Homemaking is Despised

 

It’s so heartbreaking, but I see it every single day. Young women who go around boasting of their independence and individuality. If asked, they will be glad to let you know that they have no plans of marriage and a family of their own. “Why would I  want a husband!? He would just get in the way!  Children? No way! That would mean crying babies, dirty diapers, sleepless nights, a messy house, ugh. Just more brats that would get in the way of me living my own life!”

 

They could care less about getting married, having children, and taking care of a home. They have their independence, and they plan on keeping it! They have big plans for their future! Riches, fame, success, and not having to worry (or be expected to worry) about a family of their own. They are going to live an amazing life and be independent of everyone and everything. Nothing is going to hold them back! How could so many women get to such a selfish state of mind?

 

The role of a wife and a mother used to be very highly valued! How did homemaking become so looked down upon? Women used to understand the importance of raising children and keeping a home. They understood that there was joy to be found in cooking, cleaning, sewing, and growing vegetable gardens. They understood there was joy to be found in being involved in their children’s life. Seeing their smiles, hearing the laughter, and even cleaning up their endless messes!

 

In Conclusion……

 

Thankfully I’ve been raised in a Christian home. I’ve been taught from a young age to embrace the way that God made me. He made me a woman. That is special. That is a blessing. Being a wife, mother and taking care of a home isn’t something to be despised, looked down upon, or thrown out the window. It’s a wonderful blessing given by God! It’s a great gift to embrace!  Cherish the gifts that God has given you! He made you a woman for a reason! Most of all to serve and honor Him in every area of your life.

 

He has a plan for every single one of us! For us Christian girls, he’s waiting for us to surrender our lives to him. To trust him with our future. Some of us will be missionaries to foreign countries, some of us will be Pastor’s wives, and some (probably most) of us will be raising children, changing diapers, washing dishes and scrubbing floors. And that’s a great blessing to look forward to!

 

God’s way is always best. He’s already in your tomorrows! Whether you are single, married, young or old, do your best to be the Godly woman that he wants you to be.

 

So now, I want to hear from YOU! What are your thoughts on Feminism? Does it have a place in the Christian girls life? Let me know in the comments down below!

 

 

Did this post seem familiar to you? Well, if you’ve been a faithful reader from the beginning of this blog, then you are right, it is! I’ve decided to re-publish a few of my favorite posts from the early posts on this blog, in hopes of challenging and encouraging the many, many new readers. Thanks for reading! (Again 😉 )



18 thoughts on “Why I’m Not A Feminist”

  • So well written, Cynthia! I totally agree with you! Your points were very strong! Also I liked the way you ended it! I’d love to see some of your old posts! Please reblog!☺

  • This is so very true! I haven’t read since the very beginning of your blog but when I first started reading I went back and read every single post! But yes this post does sound familiar! Have a great day!!!

  • You’re so brave to write this. Feminism is something I’ve always struggled with. I believe men and women are equal, but have different roles in society. However, it can often depend on character as well! Sometimes men are more naturally home-makers and the woman is the one with, say, the business oriented mind. Great post though. Well done!

    • Thank you, Gracie! Yes, I totally believe that men and women are equals. And that’s interesting that you mentioned it depending on character…. I guess I just have never personally seen a man who has a total desire from childhood to stay home with children and cook and clean? So that seems just a little unnatural to me 😉 Thank you for reading!

  • Very well written post, Cynthia! I really applaud you for putting your thoughts out there on such a controversial topic. I myself am a feminist, but not because I think women are superior. I stand up for my rights as an equal member of society, not as a superior to men. However, I still do understand the God-given blessing of the role of women- I personally hope to be a mom, wife, and homemaker. (Although I also think that not all women will think that way, and I’m okay with that.) Hopefully that makes sense. 🙂 Anyway, lovely post!

    • Thank you, Olivia! And yes, that totally all made sense and I agree with everything that you said! I understand that’s not going to be what’s right for every woman, and I 100% agree with equal rights. But I still wouldn’t call myself a feminist (and that’s mostly because of the bad things that it has been twisted into by so many people nowadays) Thanks so much for reading and commenting ❤

  • It sounds to me like you disagree with some people’s interpretation of feminism. The definition of feminism is the advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes. Equality. It does not mean women want to be superior to men. It means we want things like equal pay for doing the same job as men. Do you agree with women being paid less? I understand that you are fulfilled with your role as the homemaker and that is 100% your choice, but does that mean that other woman should not have the right to choose a career? Also not all feminists are pro-choice, that is a separate issue entirely. When you look at the true definition of feminism (equality of the sexes) I can’t really wrap my head around any woman not being a feminist.

    • I don’t understand this post, nor why you’re tying it to religion. Many feminists are religious. They say it’s their choice because in todays society, there are very powerful men deciding what women should do with their bodies. Do you think that is fair? Same with people in higher positions saying men deserve more for the same job. Do you think that it is okay to be paid less for the same job? It’s about equality for both. It’s a huge social issue. Feminism has nothing to do with being feminine. There are males who are feminists too.
      I get the whole “but if feminism is about equality, why’s it called feminism and not equalism?”
      Because men were never oppressed and because a community of people focusing on children and women’s issues doesn’t mean they exclude men’s traumas & issues such as body image, male sexual assault and rape victims, the male LGBTQ+ and transgender community etc. To degrade males, people compare them to females, or the female anatomy because apparently there’s nothing weaker than a girl or women. This is why feminists are active, because they strive for equal rights and fight against social injustices.

      Without feminism, women wouldn’t be able to drive, vote, have careers previously considered to be for males only (engineering, doctors etc). Not all women want to be homemakers. If you do, that’s your personal choice, but the reason that’s brought up into topic is because you get people who think women “belong in the kitchen” and that women can have kids and careers and not both.

      I don’t think you understand what the word feminist means, especially because you think people have to be feminine or female to be a feminist. There are also different kinds of feminists. There’s radical feminists, eco-feminists, intersectional feminists and cultural feminists. Do your research before you generalize a whole community,.

      You can’t say you’re for equal rights and not be a feminist, because all feminists want equal rights.

  • To add to my comment above- when I had a blog quite a few years ago I could never pick up the courage to write a post like this in fear of people getting mad at me and everything like that so I think that it must have taken a lot of courage to write this… my thoughts towards this topic are about the same as yours. I see it all over magazines and posters and all kind of stuff that say stuff like – GIRLS DESERVE THEIR RIGHTS- and – GIRLS CAN DO WHAT THEY WANT TO – all kind of stuff that doesn’t even make sense. I find it absolutely pathetic when I go into the women’s department at stores and I see jeans and pants and stuff like that, I’m thinking stuff like – I think I’m in the men’s department. What’s going on? I’m sure I’m in the women’s department but where inn the world is the dresses ?And when I do find the dresses they are called – High-low, Shark Bite, and all kind of other things like that. I think it’s crazy how years and years ago when women started wearing pants it was more than likely the funniest thing you ever saw, I know the one time (which was in the last year or 2) when I was shopping with Julia I saw a man walking around with a dress on and he even had a purse and I know I thought I had just seen the funniest thing I would ever see in my whole life. So that probably doesn’t even tie in with this post or even make sense but I thought I would just add that… Have a great day!

  • It seems that you’ve misunderstood what exactly feminism is. It is NOT misandry, the idea that women are superior to men. It is simply the belief that men and women are EQUAL. And any feminists who are “radical” in their beliefs, ie they think women are superior, are NOT feminists. But feminism is not attributed with any religion or belief or political party. Not all feminists are women. Not all feminists are pro-choice. Not all feminists are democrats. It’s not a polictal belief, it is the understanding that both sexes are equal and should be treated as such.

    So please, educate yourself on a subject before posting on it.

    • Were you talking to me (Joy) or Cynthia??? If you were talking to Cynthia- I think this post was well written but that’s just my opinion. And I also think that Cynthia has the right to post whatever she wants as this is her blog😉 Have a great night! – Joy

  • I suggest looking into different forms of feminism. A vast majority of feminists do not prescribe to the radical ideal; gynocentric feminism, for example, highly values traditional femininity and gendered essentialism. If that interests you, the work of Jane Addams is a great place to start. She argued for the rights of women through their value and seemingly natural abilities in social work and public maintenance. Not terribly liberal, but different strokes for different folks! Thank you for sharing your view, though. I think it is more common than mainstream media portrays and expanding our view of gender and equality is so important in catering to people’s needs politically and socially.

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