What Every Girl Needs To Know This Valentine’s Day

Welcome, sweet girl! It’s so nice to have you here! If you don’t already know this, my name is Cynthia, and I am so thrilled that you decided to stop by! I don’t know you well, in fact, we most likely haven’t ever met, but for a few minutes, let’s have a friendly little chat. So how about you grab your favorite coffee or tea and settle in for some awesome girl time. Sound good? Okay, great! Don’t forget, we are having a conversation here, which means I can’t be the only one talking and giving input 😉

So what did I want to chat with you about today? Well in case you didn’t know this, it’s Valentines day….. Let me guess, you’re most likely thinking something like, ‘Ha, okay, seriously Cynthia? What girl DOESN’T know that it’s Valentine’s Day?!?!’ Well, yes, I’m sure you’re right, but today, I’m not here to simply say “Happy Valentine’s Day” and wish you all the happiness and love in the world. No, instead I want to have a little heart to heart chat…..

Valentine’s Day. As soon as I said that, what comes to your mind? Excitement? Sadness? Maybe nothing? For some girls, Valentine’s Day may be a sweet day filled with chocolate, flowers, cards, and sweet, loving words. For some, it may be a difficult day, with the thought of either having gone through a breakup or a bad relationship. For some, it may be a great opportunity to spend time with family and good friends and let them know how much you love and appreciate them. For others, it may be just a totally ordinary day! “Seriously, what’s all the fuss about, anyways? The REAL holiday is the day AFTER Valentine’s Day when you buy yourself all the majorly discounted chocolate!” Whatever category you may place yourself into, there are some things that you NEED to know this Valentine’s Day!

Believe it or not, you’re not the first girl who I’ve ever chatted with….. In fact, I’m actually one myself, so I kind of understand these “girl things” just a *little* bit…. I get it! I really do! You want the sweet words. You want someone to call you beautiful. You want to make him smile. You want the love and attention. But you know what? A relationship status isn’t going to suddenly “complete” you. A box of chocolates, though a sweet gift, isn’t going to be the answer to all of life’s problems. Someone telling you that you’re beautiful isn’t going to give you lasting peace and contentment!

(And really girls, on a side note, buying yourself chocolate really isn’t the worst thing in the world 😉 I mean come on, you can get those huge boxes for like 90% off! That’s totally awesome!)

Relationships. Yes, they are a WONDERFUL thing. But it needs to be in GOD’S timing, and not a second before! Our lives shouldn’t be centered around guys, relationships, and what we can get from them. It’s time to realize that as a daughter of the King, your worth, your value, and your importance, isn’t based off of any of those things! Yes, even on Valentine’s Day!

I’m sure in the back of your head, you probably already know all of these things. In fact, you’ve probably been told things like this at least once and probably many, many times. But maybe you just needed to hear it all again…..

You are beautiful.

You are loved.

You are special.

You don’t need a ring on your finger to prove your worth.

You don’t need to be the most popular girl in your social circles.

You don’t need to look to someone else to complete you.

Your worth is not defined by a relationship status.

Your importance is not defined by how many likes your social media post got.

This list could go on forever but with still the same results, you are worth so much more!!

You have a Heavenly Father who loves you with an everlasting love! This Valentine’s Day, no, he may not be knocking on your door offering a hug and flowers, but that’s okay! You were fearfully and wonderfully made. He didn’t create you, His precious girl, just to sit and cry on a day like today. Yes, he created you with a desire to love and be loved. He created you with a need to feel cared for, wanted, and important. But don’t use that as an excuse to be complaining, discouraged, depressed, and discontent. He really does have a plan for your life! When you stop and think about it for a moment…… How do you think it makes him feel when you begin to question his ways? Seriously? I know it may seem easy to do sometimes, but we need to keep in mind, He sees it ALL and has EVERYTHING under control! If he has the whole world in the palm of His hand, why are you questioning what He is doing (or not doing) in your life?

When you begin to be filled with doubt and confusion, just stop. Seriously. There is no need for discontentment and complaining. Really, there should be no place for it! Our lives should be so filled to the brim with praising and thankfulness that there isn’t even any room left for the negativity. When we begin to focus on ourselves and OUR want and desires, that is when unhappiness can so easily creep in. This Valentine’s Day, you don’t need to be one of those girls thinking about what you wish was different, and being discontent with where God has placed you in this time of your life. Instead, take the focus off of yourself, and put it on OTHERS! J.O.Y. Jesus. Others. You. Really, that is the only way to lasting, true joy.

Sweet girl, DON’T give in to the feeling of discouragement this Valentine’s day! Actually, never! All of the sweet words, flowers, and chocolates in the world could never even come close to comparing with the love that your Heavenly Father has for you. You are a daughter of the King. Don’t forget that. Yes, it is wonderful to know that someone cares for you. Yes, it is wonderful to hear sweet words. Yes, it is wonderful to be surprised with sweet little gifts. BUT, we should never forget, there was someone who loved you so much that He gave His life for you. Wow! Isn’t that truly amazing?! Isn’t that the ULTIMATE Valentine’s Day gift?! Yes, I sure think so!

This Valentine’s Day, whether you are young or old, in a relationship or single, let’s keep in mind that to your Heavenly Father, you are worth so much! He loves you with an everlasting love. He wants you to be content with wherever he has placed you at this time of your life. Learn to be content. Learn to give thanks in all things. Yes, it will be a constant learning and growing experience. I know. Trust me, I really, really do. But you know what? He is enough. And as a daughter of the King, YOU are enough; this Valentine’s day and every single other day of the year!

Now I need to hear YOUR part of our little conversation 🙂 Have you ever struggled with discontentment when it comes to relationships? Maybe just in your life in general? Let me know in the comments down below!

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10 thoughts on “What Every Girl Needs To Know This Valentine’s Day

  1. Hey! This post was very well written and I can tell you really thought it out before writing it! I think that every girl needs to read this and remember they are loved by someone (not saying that it’s necessarily a boy that loves them but… you know what I mean😉) and that if they don’t get flowers or chocolate or the GIGANTIC bears in Wal-Mart
    Or whatever it’s COMPLETELY fine. No, I never struggled with discontentment in a relationship, after all I’m only 16 (going to be 17 July 12th) 😊 But Yes, At one point or another I have most likely struggled with not being content in general. I forgot it was Valentine’s day until I saw the flowers on the table that were to Julia and then Lily came running into the room with a small box and said ” Happy Birthday! Here is your present” I thanked her and opened it and it was a small box of chocolates that said “Be Mine”. It was funny! I said thanks Lily! I’d love to be yours 😂 so that had been my day so far. Have a blessed day!

  2. Aaah I love this, Cynthia! As a 17 year old who is going through a breakup, this day has been a little tough to me, but your words of encouragement really were so beautiful and uplifting! Thank you.

    1. Aww, I’m so glad this post could be an encouragement to you! Praying for you as you’re going through this breakup ❤ Stay strong! And thank you so much for reading.

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