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What To Do When Something Offends You


Dear readers who were offended by my post and just HAD to let me know…… This one’s for you. You’re welcome. Oooooohhhhhh the sarcasm’s heavy in this post…  If you don’t understand sarcasm very well, then I would recommend NOT reading this post, and going to read one of my other ones 😉



So….. Let me just start out by saying, Welcome to 2018! This is the wonderful point in American history where we are achieving amazing things. Seriously. Amazing. We are exploring the deepest darkest parts of the ocean, we have satellites in space, and then…… We give out participation trophies, teach everyone that no one is ever going to disagree with them (and if someone does, they’re an awful, judgmental, hateful person) Oh, and of course we even have those genius’ eating tide pods! Isn’t that great?! (*facepalm* Why. Seriously. Just WHY) But anyways, back to what I was trying to say…… We live in a world FULL of constantly offended people. And when you run a blog/website, it can get annoying FAST. In fact, I’m just about to start replying to all of these upset, hateful people and simply saying “The fact that you were offended by this offends me.”


Honestly, the haters really make me laugh sometimes. I’m going to use my recent controversial feminism post for an example……. NOTHING written in that post was ever meant to be at all condescending or hateful. I even specifically said at the end of the post that it was simply meant to be an encouragement to girls to embrace the way that God made them, because being a woman is an amazing, special, wonderful thing! Do you have any idea how many downright nasty, hateful comments I’ve received as a result of that post? Wow. I don’t even know how many. And on top of those, there are like a million and one just plain ridiculous comments that leave me going, “Wait….. What….. Are they being serious?” I’m going to share one of them that I received last night that actually still has me laughing because it’s just so ridiculous…..


“If you want to be a stay-at-home wife & mother, I have no problem with that, but please keep in mind, that I do not want that life and should be allowed to pursue my career choice without criticism or prejudice. If your religious beliefs say you should remain in the home, again, that is fine, but those are not my beliefs and I should not be forced to live under your religious beliefs nor should I be criticized for not adhering to those beliefs. 


Okay, wait a minute………. WHAT? So apparently because I wrote a post on MY blog that was written from MY point of view and expressed MY beliefs and opinions, I’m suddenly forcing this random person to live under my beliefs?! I’m actually convinced that she didn’t even read the post…… Because if she did, then what in the world? Wow, talk about twisting someone’s words! For some reason, I don’t remember breaking into this random lady’s house, holding her at gunpoint, making her get on MY website, and then telling her she must never have a career and stay home her entire life. But oh yes, she’s right, I’m totally forcing her.


(Oh and just to clarify, I would NOT say that it is wrong for a woman to go to college or have a career. That’s ridiculous. God has a different plan for everyone’s life.)


If you are like that person, there are some very real truths that you need to hear….. WELCOME TO REAL LIFE. Everyone in this world is NOT going to agree with you. Yes, it’s as simple as that.  And you know what? That’s okay! If someone disagrees with you, your life should not be ruined, you shouldn’t say that they are trying to force you to live like them, you shouldn’t be questioning your life existence, and you shouldn’t be turning into a ranting, raving, monster.


I know this is going to be a huge shocker. You’ve probably never thought of this before. Do you know what you can do if you read something on my blog (or anywhere) that offends you??? HIT THE LITTLE X AT THE TOP RIGHT OF YOUR SCREEN. Woah! Mind. Blown.  If my blog post offends you, STOP READING. If you’ve subscribed, and then this blog turns out to be something that you weren’t expecting, I’ve got good news for you! You can UNSUBSCRIBE at any time!


This is MY blog. Cynthia Zander’s. Seriously, go to Google and type in the domain name asweetnsimplelife.com You know what you’re going to find? Surprise, surprise, I actually own it! Isn’t that neat?! I sure think so 😉 So what does that mean? Well, that means I can literally write about w.h.a.t.e.v.e.r. I want. REGARDLESS of whether or not every single person in this world agrees with it. Which actually, is totally impossible. You really don’t need to come to MY blog, read a post that you already know beforehand that you are going to disagree with, and then leave me a comment telling me that I am cramming my beliefs down your throat and forcing you to live a certain way. You really don’t NEED to come here and tell me what a judgmental, uneducated person I am, simply because you don’t 100% agree with me. Technically, this is America and you have the freedom of speech thanks to the 1st amendment, so yes, you CAN say whatever you want, but at the end of the day. why? Is it REALLY nessecary?


To all of you bloggers out there, keep right on blogging about whatever you want! We blog for the majority, not the minority. Don’t let those ridiculous comments and miserable people discourage you.


So what are you supposed to do when something or someone offends you? Just MOVE ON with your life. Seriously! It’s all going to be okay! Also, on a more serious note, people simply need to stop getting so offended at every little thing! I guarantee that you will have a much happier life when you aren’t constantly finding things to get offended at and people to be mad at.


As one last point, if this sarcastic post offended you, you REALLY don’t need to leave a mean comment 😉 And if you feel the urge to do that…… Oh my word, seriously?! Go back to the top of the page and read this entire post again. OR, better yet, close your laptop or turn off your phone. Go outside, take a walk, and get some fresh air.


So now, I want to hear from YOU! Bloggers, have you had to deal with people letting you know how offended or upset they were by something that you said? How did you deal with it? Did you laugh it off and become a better blogger regardless of them, or were they discouraging to you? Let me know in the comments down below!


16 thoughts on “What To Do When Something Offends You”

  • Oh boy do I relate to this!!! I laughed so hard reading it! It’s like you said everything I ever think about the subject 😂 There are a lot of people that seem to spend too much time on the internet, going and leaving rude comments on other people’s sites for literally. No. Reason. At. All. I get dozens of them. Do you know how many times I have gone and left a comment on someone else’s page telling them how dumb they were? ZERO. I know can you believe it?!?! If I don’t like a site, I just leave!!! Thank you Cynthia for being a person of common sense in a world of tide pod eaters 😂😉

    • Haha! Awe, I’m so glad you enjoyed it so much ❤ And YES. I have never once left a comment telling someone how awful their post was or what an idiot they were….. Like seriously, WHY? Oh, and when you said “Thank you for being a person of common sense in a world of tide pod eaters.” Girl, you had me laughing SO loud at that 😂 Thanks for the sweet comment!

  • This is so funny! I appreciate your sarcasm.
    For me myself, I never actually received any hate comments, but mostly I try to stay away from super controversial topics, but I do agree! Don’t let what people say to you hurt you, and go on with what you want to say!
    It says in the Bible to keep peace when possible, but it doesn’t say shut up and never say anything about what you believe. Well done. 😀

    • Well that’s wonderful that you haven’t received any hate comments ☺ And yes, you are so right about what the bible says about keeping peace, but that doesn’t mean never standing up for what you believe in!

  • Okay can I just say this post had me laughing so extremely hard that I was crying?!?!? I felt SO bad for you and it also made me very sad to see so many people hating on your post when I got on your blog and read all the mean comments on the feminism post BECAUSE I know how it feels for someone to not like what I worked hard on. I completely agree with your statement. It’s YOUR blog YOU can write about what YOU want to so YOU keep on writing about what YOU want to as I enjoy reading about your thoughts on different topics. I was laughing so hard at the part of this post where you said about someone saying that you forced them to do this and that and blah blah blah. I read the post and I wasn’t forced to do anything😉 So anyway all of your post that I’ve read have not offended me and you have never ever forced me to do anything! Always remember for every person that doesn’t like your post there is someone who does like it😀 AND, remember that if someone offends you they are probably going through a hard time so they try to make you sad as well or maybe they are just jealous that your family’s standards are higher than theirs. Have a great night!

    • Haha, well I’m glad it had you laughing! And seriously, you don’t need to feel bad for me at all 😉 The negative comments don’t make me feel bad or anything, it’s honestly somewhat amusing!

      • I’m glad I was laughing too! Thanks for letting me know I don’t have to feel bad anymore😉 negative comments CAN be quite interesting and funny to read sometimes! Negative comments can make me laugh so hard sometimes especially when people are so upset about a post their comment doesn’t even make any sense and the person spells so many words wrong you can’t even tell what it says and oh yeah and you gotta love it when people sometimes at the bottom of a nasty comment write I hope I didn’t offend you! What!?!?! If you aren’t trying to offend someone then why write a mean comment to them??? I don’t understand those types of people! Do you??? And Cynthia remember you always have the option of pressing the delete button to the hate comments if you need to! Remember what God said, Love your enemies! Have a good day!

        And if you don’t mind telling me, what is your posting schedule if you have one?

  • This was a great post!!!! You keep on writing what God lays on your heart, and ignore the nasty comments. Keep up the AMAZING work!!! BTW, I love the sarcasm. *Winks*

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