There is so much gender confusion taking place in our world. Sadly, even Christian women are losing sight of the wonderful blessings and opportunities God has given them by making them a woman! The Proverbs 31 woman is such a wonderful example of what Christian womanhood should really be like.
As shocking as it sounds, the Proverbs 31 woman was not born perfect or with the amazing characteristics that she is described as having. It took effort on her part to BECOME that woman. And guess what! That’s good news for you! That means you can work to build those good character traits in your life too!
There are SO many good characteristcs we could learn from the Proverbs 31 woman; I had a hard time narrowing it down to these 4. Don’t be surprised if you see another one of these posts sometime down the road. 😉 Well, let’s get to it! Here are 4 ways that I am challenging you to be like the Proverbs 31woman today, and always! Will these areas of your life take work? Yes, of course. But is it worth it to become the Christian woman that you should be? Oh yes!
Be A Blessing To Your Husband
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:10,11
This world has far too many women who are hurting their husbands and families. Please don’t be one of them! You are supposed to be your husband’s helpmeet and blessing, not his burden! You should be his biggest supporter, his biggest encouragement, his prayer warrior, and the biggest blessing of his life. Do your best to be doing him good and not evil all the days of your life. Your role of being a good, godly wife (or even girlfriend) is an extremely important one. Don’t be taking that place for granted! You make much more of an impact on the man in your life than you may realize. You have the ability to be his great blessing or his greatest burden. Be sure that you are blessing!
Even if you aren’t married, please don’t skim over this point; it is still extremely important. You should still be making it a big priority to be honoring and blessing the men in your life, i.e. your fathers, brothers, boyfriends, etc. If you are failing in the area of your family and your position in it, nothing else will fall into place the way that it should. Be sure that you are keeping your priorities in the right order.
Choose Your Words Wisely
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. Proverbs 31:26
Someone does you wrong, your plans get ruined, your world comes crashing down, and the first thing you want to do is lash out with your words. Uh oh, stop right there, we have a problem! Your words truly hold the power of life or death. You can be uplifting, helpful and encouraging, OR you can be negative, complaining and discouraging.
If you find yourself struggling with your words, don’t just try to remove your wrong, discouraging words, learn to replace them with good and uplifting words. Good speech is a habit that can be built. Instead of griping at the kids over every little frustration, use your words to encourage them to do right. Fill yourself so much to the brim with love, kindness, and grace, that it can’t help but overflow into your life and make itself known through your words! Open your mouth wisely and let it be said that in your tongue is the law of kindness.
Understand The Importance Of True Beauty
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30
The Proverbs 31 woman understood that her beauty was not the most important part of her life. No, there’s not necessarily anything wrong with looking nice and desiring to be beautiful, but ultimately, your beauty should come from the inside out. True beauty comes from a heart that’s focused on God and others. True beauty comes from a heart that is kind, caring, loving, giving, selfless, and righteous.
Your beauty shouldn’t be defined by your pretty face or the shape of your body. It should come from the inside out! For example, I’ve met some of the most stunning women in the world…. But after getting to know them a little better, their beauty vanished away almost completely. Why? Well because they didn’t have a beautiful heart. Likewise, I’ve known plenty of women whose looks weren’t anything spectacular, yet after getting to know them, they are suddenly a million times more beautiful then any model out there. Why? Because they are shining their beauty from the inside – out! That’s what makes the difference!
Stop worrying about always having beautiful hair and makeup and a perfect outfit, and start worrying about having a beautiful heart! Outward beauty will fade, but a beautiful heart never gets old!
Put Others Before Yourself
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Proverbs 31:27
Call me old-fashioned, but I still believe that women have been called upon to serve their families. Now I understand that not every woman has been called to raise a family. Some women will be headed off to college to be doctors amd lawyers, or anything else. And that’s totally fine! BUT, if you are married and raising a family, they need to be your absolute number one priority. Your husband and his needs come before your own. Your children and their needs come before your own. Don’t be someone who is constantly complaining about your family, the size of your house, the size of your bank account, the chores, and on and on this list could go. Griping and complaining has never made anyone’s life better! Being content and serving your family? That’s where you’ll find true joy.
Think about it for a moment….. A complaining spirit only comes when you have stopped serving others with a joyful and submissive heart. It comes when you take the focus off of others and put it on yourself. Complaining and discontentment is a direct result of selfishness. Plain and simple.
There are so many things in this world that are telling you that you need to be number one. No one else should come before you and your wants, dreams, plans, and desires. Well, here’s a shocker for you…. That’s not true! I’ve yet to find an example of someone who cares for themselves more than anyone else and is really, truly happy. If you’ve been walking down the road of complaining, discontentment, selfishness, and putting yourself first, consider this your warning! The road of selfishness will never have a good end!
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Well now I want to hear from YOU! Is the Proverbs 31 women an inspiration to you? What are some ways that you striving to be like her? Are you doing your best to be building the good characteristics that she had? I sure hope so! I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments down below!